What to Expect from a Focusing Session
Focusing sessions typically take about 30 minutes and involve no counselling, insight, or interpretation on my part.
You will be encouraged to name an issue that you want to work on in your session and will be supported to prepare yourself for sensing into your body feelings and senses.
Focusing is a meditative process of allowing the "unclear edge" of your currently arising growth process to reveal itself step by step.
Focusing relies entirely on you learning to trust your own inner sense of yourself without any interpretation from me.
This process may also be used as a way for you to sense more deeply into your art, writings to see what kinds of meanings and messages arise from your inner world.
Usually what is arising as your next growth step is difficult to put into words and it will take some time to allow your inner "felt-sense" to find the words, sounds, gestures, inner imagery of bodily feelings to express. I will simply reflect back what you say so that your inner sensations feel heard and can further unfold.
You are the sole director of this process. Whatever you gently attend to will reveal its meaning. At the end of your focusing session you will be invited to give feedback, and you may invite me to share my experience of your Focusing session.
Sometimes spontaneous art can feel like a mystery. If you want to explore the emotions and meanings in your art process, I invite you to bring it to your focusing session and I will guide you into a focusing process that explores the deeper embodiment of what you have created.
I create art and keep a daily focusing journal and you can view my personal process HERE.
The following is a short explanation from the book Presence.
Inner Relationship Focusing is a version of Focusing developed by Barbara
McGavin and Ann Cornell in order to make Focusing even more effective for emotion-based life issues. Inner Relationship Focusing includes the whole Focusing process
as psychotherapist Eugene Gendlin set it out, and adds methods and concepts for working with parts and enhancing wholeness.
Inner Parts Work
Parts are temporary aspects of the self that emerge when our full self is not available
to handle emotional states or solve life problems. By their very nature, parts are
at odds with each other, and so we experience painful inner conflict. We may find
ourselves saying, for example, “Part of me wants to give up on this relationship
because it’s too painful, but another part of me is hanging on and won’t let go.”
Protector parts (sometimes called ‘controlling’ parts) are parts that are worried
about you and often express that worry through criticism and blame. Defender
parts are parts that are rebellious or crushed, and may be impulsive and self-indulgent. The "Small One" is a type of part that holds a frozenness around an old
trauma and is either hidden away or painfully re-triggered by current events.
Self-in-Presence (also called Presence) Self-in-Presence is the ability to turn toward our challenging emotions rather than being caught up in them. One way to give company to your emotional state is to let a gentle hand move to the place in
your body where you feel it. You can say, “I am with you,” or “I am here.”
"In ordinary conversation, we tend to report on our problems or our breakthroughs. In the Focusing relationship, we’re granted all the time we need to discover them freshly, right then and there. Also, in regular chats, there’s usually plenty of supportive side talk, even when one person is in the midst of telling his or her story. We say, “Wow, that must have been excruciating!” or “Great job! I can’t believe you were able to pull that off.”
But in a Focusing Relationship, the listener is fully devoted to the Focuser’s discovery of self without the intrusion of opinion, interpretation, cheerleading, problem-solving, or commentary of any sort, knowing that the most supportive thing he or she can do is reflect back to the Focuser what she’s just said, thereby allowing the Focuser’s own words to reverberate more deeply in her body and heart."
~ Lynn Preston and Dr. Joan Klagsbrun